Cheating
Cheating on your girl or boy friend can be a sticky situation. Precise movements, perfect answers and justified actions are key if you are cheating, or plan to cheat and don’t want to get caught. Even so, remember that your significant other may be smarter than you think they are, so don’t go into your secret second relationship without knowing for sure that you can cover all of your tracks. Read on to find some reminders of what to do, how to act and how not to get caught cheating.
First things first, do not change the way you act towards your partner. This will be the first thing to make them raise their eyebrows. If you are always very loving and enjoyable to be around, stay that way. Similarly, if you are often sidetracked and distant—maybe even a little dull in your current relationship—don’t change. You don’t want to do anything to raise eyebrows and if you start showing more compassion because you feel guilty, this will definitely raise some alarms.
Here’s another important tip: when programming your new “friend’s” number into your cell phone, add it in as a name of the same sex. For instance, a guy should put in a name like “Bob“; if asked, say it’s a new employee at work or a new student at school. And speaking of cell phones, cut off detailed billing on your billing plan. This way your carrier doesn’t keep track of any calls you make or receive. Make sure that there is no way to gain access to this information. If your significant other asks, simply tell them that your carrier offered you a five dollar discount because you would be saving paper. Also, keep all your bills online rather than having them mailed to your house.
If you live with your current partner, always have a handy excuse that will keep you away from home. “We have a huge project at work/school coming up, I will be late a lot.” Make sure your excuse works for you and is sensible. For instance, if you have been meaning to get to the gym lately, now is your perfect excuse. Open a membership and use it often, but skip sometimes to run off with your fling. Whatever you do, make sure you continue to work out—if you don’t show improvement, your current partner will start asking questions. Having the perfect alibi will prevent this, so ensure that you put a lot of thought and effort into your time spent away.
Last but not least, be careful, especially the mortgage or rent. Be careful when you answer questions, take a great note to not mix up names, and don’t tell any of your friends or relatives what you are up to. Don’t make any purchases on a credit card that may seem suspicious to your partner. Use cash for everything you do with your fling, and ensure that you don’t spend so much money wining and dining that you don’t pay a bill that you have always paid.
Remember to keep your personality intact. Take a week to observe how you respond to different situations towards your partner and be sure to always reinforce your normal behaviors. This way you won’t get caught up in the fun of what you are doing and make changes about yourself that you don’t even notice. Be prepared to answer questions if need be and make sure to not use your friends as alibi’s. Most of all, remember that once you take the plunge, there is no going back to change it! And that being the case, if you are cheating, perhaps your current relationship isn’t right for you.